Dr. Holeman often uses ‘Emotionally Focused Therapy’ (EFT) in his work with clients. He has participated
in several professional trainings on EFT and is participating in the certification process. Emotionally Focused Therapy is:
- Empirically validated: It is one of the few approaches
to couple therapy shown by research to be effective – even with highly distressed couples. An impressive 90% of couples
experienced at least some improvement in their relationship
- Based on John Bowlbyʼs Attachment Theory: As applied to adult love relationships,
it recognizes the ongoing need we all have for reliable attachment figures in our intimate relationships and assumes
that a secure attachment with our partner provides the solid base that helps us manage emotional distress.
- An experiential approach: Couples change
by identifying and expressing their ongoing need for strong, accessible, responsive emotional connections. Emotions are the
focus because they are compelling and instructive; they tell us what is important to us.
- Growth oriented: The focus is on individual and
couple strengths and recognizes that human beings have an inherent drive towards growth and healthy relationships.
- Collaborative: A strong alliance –
where couples are the experts on their own experience and can express this in therapy – is key. The therapists role
is that of process consultant, helping partners connect their own internal experience with their couple interactions.
- Focused on the present: While history
often plays an important role in shaping our ways of relating, it is the emotionally driven interactions in the here and now
that are the focus of therapy.
engaging: The active, evocative approach is especially effective at drawing out men, who often have more difficulty accessing
and expressing their emotions.
and concise: Susan Johnson, the principal developer of EFT for couples, has clearly elaborated a therapy model that relies
on attachment theory as the basis for understanding adult love relationships, including the nature of conflict and the change
process in couple therapy.